tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post5704734507368332229..comments2023-04-16T06:50:29.838-04:00Comments on moon lit hill: Homemaking.gardenofsimplehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06102015484332879862noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post-56195284343639176612010-01-09T10:24:55.064-05:002010-01-09T10:24:55.064-05:00I'm the opposite of bare bones! Definitely clu...I'm the opposite of bare bones! Definitely cluttered! That's what I've had to work on, letting go of things that don't work for us. I have a hard time giving up "perfectly good items".<br /><br />One thing that helped me with decorating is thrift stores. I prefer the worn, rustic look so that makes it easy anyway, and I can experiment with different styles and set ups for not much money.gardenofsimplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06102015484332879862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post-52888508403299214292010-01-08T23:46:51.150-05:002010-01-08T23:46:51.150-05:00What does homemaking mean to me? You described so...What does homemaking mean to me? You described some of my journey in your blog. Where my story diverges is that I've been homemaking since I was a little girl. Caring for babies and animals, cleaning the house, helping with homework, etc were all things I did as young as 6, 7, 8. I watch Jesse and she is acting like a little homemaker at age 3 almost 4. So I can't say that my rough childhood made me take on those responsibilities, but perhaps it is just innate to Jesse and I to care for people, things, our home, our pets, our family, etc. <br /><br />I am a working mom, though, so there is the daily struggle to find the balance with a clean, well organized home and a comfort level that I can take mentally and the physical restraints. Doing too much "housework" in one day will wipe me out by 4pm, so I have to allot days for certain things or ask Jon to do them for me. I've learned to let go and just do what I can at my pace. Jon helps, the kids help, and like you said, the family learns the RHYTHM. The family rhythm is the goal. Soule Mama has it going on and she is such an inspiration.<br /><br />My dirty secret is this though: I am a good mom, a pretty good house cleaner, but I'm failing at the homeyness (decorations/interior design) that speaks to what I want my home to portray. I'm pretty bare bones in my home decorations and I wish I had more of a warm homey decor.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01216580106264628759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post-14741341048241418012010-01-08T19:52:16.549-05:002010-01-08T19:52:16.549-05:00Amy, I used to feel the same way. I was just NOT a...Amy, I used to feel the same way. I was just NOT a homemaker and had no desire to be. Somewhere, somehow, along the way that changed. Like I said, part of it was a concious effort to change that. To change the way I looked at it. Ad my children grew, it became easier. I think in part because they seem to grow so fast, and I felt like the time and this life was just slipping through my fingers. I really wanted to be present in it, enjoy it, savor it. <br />Something else that has helped, is reading Soulemama http://www.soulemama.com/soulemama/ when I found her blog about 18 months ago, I sat down and read the whole thing, all her archives. She is a daily inspiration to me. Her blog and her words are a daily reminder to enjoy this fleeting time in my life.<br />And sometimes that means letting the dishes set in the sink or the laundry go undone. And sometimes that means taking time AWAY from home and AWAY from my family, even if just for a few hours so I can recharge and come back and be the best mom and wife and homemaker and me that I can be. <br />There is no one rhythm. No perfect absolute answer to this topic. But I do hope that you find YOUR rhythm. Because when you do, it's kind of magical.gardenofsimplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06102015484332879862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post-3503234447243518092010-01-08T16:40:47.106-05:002010-01-08T16:40:47.106-05:00I have so many thoughts on this subject and I'...I have so many thoughts on this subject and I've tried to articulate them at various times and I just can't seem to say everything. It's a complex issue for me, I guess.<br /><br />I want to be a homemaker. I really do. But I'm just not. It's the getting into the habits that I can't do. I keep wanting to do things "my way," which means "whenever the hell I feel like doing things." Which is never. So our home is not "made." And I am saddened by that, in a way. I want our home to be full of light and life, and I want my hands to be busy and happy, and they're just not. <br /><br />Thank you for the reminder of where I want to be, and why I want to be there.AmyBeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04457545689345657277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post-79225406520829803492010-01-07T12:14:39.562-05:002010-01-07T12:14:39.562-05:00oh damn! Sorry, I had to edit it a bit. I wish I h...oh damn! Sorry, I had to edit it a bit. I wish I had seen your comment!gardenofsimplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06102015484332879862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3670889218093827671.post-64916016712393147642010-01-07T11:18:38.678-05:002010-01-07T11:18:38.678-05:00Damn it. You made this blog disappear yesterday an...Damn it. You made this blog disappear yesterday and I had written out a really long comment. I basically blogged on your blog. I love this blog, I love the subject. It's something that is very thought provoking for me. I wrote a thesis for my Sociology of Women class on this very subject. <br /><br />Now I can't remember what I said yesterday, but trust me, it was brilliant! ;-PValkyriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01575883172357805945noreply@blogger.com